Wednesday, April 27, 2011


I had lunch with someone today.  She's a professional collegue with whom I had lost touch somewhat over the last couple of years for various reasons on both sides, but I had thought that we had moved into a friendship beyond professional boundaries nevertheless.  So when she happened to run into me yesterday and wanted to catch up for lunch, I thought, "Great!  It's been a little while since I had a little professional girl time where we could talk about work, what's been happening with people we both had in common, what's been happening in our lives, etc."  And we did that...but it became very apparent very quickly that she really just wanted to pick my brain, to find out how I had been living and getting by since I was laid off a little over a year and a half ago, if I could be a reference (after offering up to be one of mine first if I would like) and if I knew of anyone that could use someone with her skills.   Basically, she wanted to get together because she was fishing and wanted something from me, not really to just catch up.

It's not like I won't help her or think of her should a good employment opportunity came up to get her out of her current one or that I wouldn't share the lessons learned in my life to spare her from having to experience them as well...but I think it was just in the delivery. It was how it came about in conversation.  That all the conversation leading up to the last 20 minutes was just her biding her time to warm me up until she could get to why she really wanted to go to lunch with me.  Disappointing to say the least, when she was one of the last people I expected that from. :(

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