Saturday, January 31, 2009

The Man Band...

Cow & Boy

Thursday, January 29, 2009

In Times of Adversity - are you a carrot, egg or coffee?

You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee beans out and poured the coffee in a cup. Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see."

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

It's easier to build a child than repair an adult. This is so true. May we all be COFFEE.

Tuesday, January 20, 2009


"Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we've been waiting for. We are the change that we seek. "

~Barack Obama

"Lord, in the memory of all the saints who from their labors rest, and in the joy of a new beginning, we ask you to help us work for that day when black will not be asked to get back, when brown can stick around, when yellow will be mellow, when the red man can get ahead, man, and when white will embrace what is right.

Let all those who do justice and love mercy say amen."

~ Rev. Joseph Lowery

Monday, January 12, 2009

Bride Wars

So I was debating on whether or not to do a review of this movie as two words can sum up the entire movie: girly fluff. That’s perfectly fine as long as you go into it with no higher expectations than to be submerged into a very girly world where two best friends spent most of their lives dreaming of their perfect wedding from the moment they happened to witness a fantasy wedding in June at the Plaza.

Liv, portrayed by Kate Hudson, and Emma, portrayed by Anne Hathaway, are the two aforementioned best friends who happened to get engaged pretty close to one another and by some miracle were able to snag June dates at The Plaza to hold their weddings by retaining one of the most prestigious wedding planners in New York. Unfortunately – as given away in the previews – somehow the scheduling got mixed up and now both weddings are scheduled on the same day in June.

What I liked about this movie:
I love all things wedding, so regardless of the quality of the actual movie, all I really cared about seeing was the Vera Wang dress shoot and how the look of the actual weddings turned out. I honestly could have waited until the DVD for that, but I was bored and wasn’t in the mood for tears to watch The Curious Case of Benjamin Buttons or Seven Pounds. For that, the movie didn’t disappoint. Of course everything was staged beautifully, and I saw a new take on a not so unique idea on the ceremony.
New York, The Plaza and Vera Wang – love it!

What I didn’t like:
Soooo completely predictable. Will this ruin their friendship forever or will they kiss and make up? Would it really be a spoiler to give the answer to this one away?

The other thing is that I didn’t fully believe the depth of the friendship. I can’t completely pinpoint why, but it just seemed to me that the women these girls grew up to be and their viewpoints about life were so far apart from one another that it’s hard for me to imagine that their friendship would still be so intimate after all these years - especially with the level of jealousy that Liv has with Emma that’s always just below the surface.
The shenanigans to sabotage one another’s wedding…it might have been funnier if I hadn’t been privy to what they were from the previews. I was waiting to see something that I didn’t already see a million times at home on TV. Seriously movie trailer people….leave something for the movie!

The fianc├ęs – while I like the characters themselves, I just didn’t buy the casting of these characters. Didn’t really fit with Kate Hudson and Anne Hathaway in my opinion or the men they were supposed to be. Maybe it’s just leftover from previous things I’ve seen these guys in. I just didn’t buy it.

To Sum It All Up...
In the famous words of my favorite local movie reviewer, Hooman Khalili, “To sum it all up, let me just say this,” With the economy and the price of tickets to see movies nowadays, I would rent Father of the Bride or Sex and the City for movies with weddings. You might actually be more entertained.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Paramore Music Video for Decode (Twilight Version)

Love the song. Love this version of the video. Now if I could only download it on iTunes....Apple, are you listening?

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Which one are you?

FYI - I"m a Taurus, and it's pretty dead on....

VIRGO - The Perfectionist

Dominant in relationships. Conservative. Always wants the last word. Argumentative. Worries. Very smart. Dislikes noise and chaos. Eager. Hardworking. Loyal. Beautiful. Easy to talk to. Hard to please. Harsh. Practical and very fussy. Often shy. Pessimistic.

SCORPIO - The Intense One
Very energetic. Intelligent. Can be jealous and/or possessive. Hardworking. Great kisser. Can become obsessive or secretive. Holds grudges. Attractive. Determined. Loves being in long relationships. Talkative. Romantic. Can be self-centered at times. Passionate and Emotional.

LIBRA - The Harmonizer
Nice to everyone they meet. Can't make up their mind. Have own unique appeal. Creative, energetic, and very social. Hates to be alone. Peaceful, generous. Very loving and beautiful. Flirtatious. Give in too easily. Procrastinators. Very gullible.

ARIES – The Daredevil
Energetic. Adventurous and spontaneous. Confident and enthusiastic. Fun. Loves a challenge. EXTREMELY impatient. Sometimes selfish. Short fuse. (easily angered.) Lively, passionate, and sharp wit. Outgoing. Lose interest quickly - easily bored. Egotistical. Courageous and assertive. Tends to be physical and athletic.

AQUARIUS - The Sweetheart
Optimistic and honest. Sweet personality. Very independent. Inventive and intelligent. Friendly and loyal. Can seem unemotional. Can be a bit rebellious. Very stubborn, but original and unique. Attractive on the inside and out. Eccentric personality.

GEMINI - The Chatterbox
Smart and witty. Outgoing, very chatty. Lively, energetic. Adaptable but needs to express themselves. Argumentative and outspoken. Likes change. Versatile. Busy, sometimes nervous and tense. Gossips. May seem superficial or inconsistent, But is only changeable. Beautiful physically and mentally.

LEO - The Boss
Very organized. Needs order in their lives - like being in control. Likes boundaries. Tends to take over everything. Bossy. Likes to help others. Social and outgoing. Extroverted. Generous, warm-hearted. Sensitive. Creative energy. Full of themselves. Loving. Doing the right thing is important to Leos. Attractive.

CANCER - The Protector
Moody, emotional. May be shy. Very loving and caring. Pretty/handsome. Excellent partners for life. Protective. Inventive and imaginative. Cautious. Touchy-feely kind of person. Needs love from others. Easily hurt, but sympathetic.

PISCES - The Dreamer
Generous, kind, and thoughtful. Very creative and imaginative. May become secretive and vague. Sensitive. Don't like details. Dreamy and unrealistic. Sympathetic and loving. Kind. Unselfish. Good kisser. Beautiful.

CAPRICORN - The Go-Getter
Patient and wise. Practical and rigid. Ambitious. Tends to be good-looking. Humorous and funny. Can be a bit shy and reserved. Often pessimists. Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be unfriendly at times. Hold grudges. Like competition. Get what they want.

TAURUS - The Enduring One
Charming but aggressive. Can come off as boring, but they are not. Hard workers. Warm-hearted. Strong, has endurance. Solid beings who are stable and secure in their ways. Not looking for shortcuts. Take pride in their beauty. Patient and reliable. Make great friends and give good advice. Loving and kind. Loves hard - passionate. Expresses themselves emotionally. Prone to ferocious temper-tantrums. Determined. Indulges themselves often. Very generous.

SAGITTARIUS - The Happy-Go-Lucky One
Good-natured optimist. Doesn't want to grow up (Peter Pan Syndrome). Indulges self. Boastful. Likes luxuries and gambling. Social and outgoing. Doesn't like responsibilities. Often fantasizes. Impatient. Fun to be around. Has lots of friends. Flirtatious. Doesn't like rules. Sometimes hypocritical. Dislikes being confined - tight spaces or even tight clothes. Doesn't like being doubted. Beautiful inside and out.

Monday, January 5, 2009

A Beautiful Disaster to Miss Independent

When you're sick for multiple days and don't have the energy to move but have enough energy for your mind to more than make up for it, it's really interesting where those thoughts take you. Waking up sick on January 1 makes it even more interesting. When you feel like crap on the first day of the new year, it's really hard to jump on the bandwagon that 2009 will kick ass! Lord knows it's already been kicking mine! So what was going through my head during the last few days? Theme songs.

I've had a lot of "theme songs" over the years to describe the place I was in. Music is my most powerful trigger, and there is almost always a song that can better explain what is happening internally than I could ever properly verbalize it. My past theme songs would probably be a surprise to most that know me considering I've had many years of practice in hiding what was going on internally. What I've realized is that while it's great to find songs to express my current state, it's even better to find a song to express where I want to be instead (if I'm not already there). So goodbye to Beautiful Disaster by Jon McLaughlin. It's a beautiful song and served it's purpose in 2008. But it's time to bring on 2009 and Miss Independent by Ne-Yo.
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